Everyone gets caught up in the moment.
How do you know if you are caught up?
One: You are over emotional. This may be in sadness, despair, anger, fear and worry, or in joy, excitement, bliss etc.
Second: You’ve lost focus on what you are supposed to be focusing on.
In trying to get published and in finding an agent, I’ve had to create and build a social platform. If you saw my post on The Hells & Joys of Blogging, you can get a jist of the time consuming process for learning how to and maintaining a social platform and website.
As a writer, I have to intentionally refocus my mind and attention to focusing on what I am to be doing – writing. So when I feel overwhelmed by all the social media must-do’s, or frustrated by the workload or social media sites that are running slow, or I simply don’t know where to begin or what to do next, this means I am spending too much time trying to build my platform, and not giving enough time to my craft of writing.
For you this may be in over-zealous cleaning (or a task to avoid cleaning), working out too much or not enough, working too many hours or not enough, letting other people’s problems become yours.
Answer these two questions to gain clarity:
I am giving most of my time, energy and focus to/on doing ________?
My focus really should be on doing _________ most of the time.
This is the 20/80 rule. You should be able to laser your focus on one activity for short time frames and this highly focused effort should bring you most of your desired results exponentially.
Or you may get caught up in the day’s moment’s (otherwise known as unnecessary drama – your own or someone else’s) frequently, draining you of time, energy and focus. Ask yourself “Is this really that important? Why am I giving my time and energy to this? If I stepped away from this energy sucker, will it be ok and/or resolve itself? I will likely have better ideas and solutions once I step away, breathe and re-approach the situation with a clear, calm, focused mindset.”
Often what you give your time and energy to really isn’t your problem to begin with, nor does getting involved in other’s drama bring you any closer to achieving what you set out to do.
When you can pause in the middle of frustration and high energy moments, reign yourself in and refocus on what is truly important, you immediately feel a sense of peace and calm, and more in control. The truth is you will be more in control – of yourself. And you will be refocused and once again moving forwards and upwards.
Anytime you find yourself becoming consumed by something or avoiding doing something (maybe it just isn’t one ounce of fun- hmmm doing the dishes or taking out the trash, completing that project), this is a great time to step back, assess what is really going on, refocus your mind and energy, and then move forward again.
Being overwhelmed by situations or activities only clouds up the mind and makes it more difficult to think clearly and make good decisions. Avoiding action only uses up time and energy that could be put into what you want to focus on and delaying the opportunity for progress. Just get it done, do the best you can, learn from it and say, “Next.”
*This blog post is based on the decision making principles found in Empowered.
To learn more about the success principles in Empowered click here. *
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