How it happens greatly depends on how we decide to make life happen and also how we decide to respond to those unexpected situations. The truth is, if we were completely accountable and responsible in everything we do, these unexpected situations would rarely happen. However, this would mean we’d be perfect, and be able to plan, prepare and perform at 110% every second of every day. And we are not perfect no matter how much we’d like to be.
So what can we do to respond well when the S*t hits the fan?
First, take a deep breath. If you need to step outside for a few minutes, or close your eyes or listen to some music, do so. The first step in doing anything is do it from a calm and quiet mind. Only when the mind is calm and quiet can we make good decisions.
Second, remove yourself from the situation. Take a step back, look at the bigger picture and realize this is just one small, brief moment in time. There are others dealing with much more difficult and harsh problems. You can handle this.
Third, remove your emotions from the moment. You can emotionally deal with the circumstances at another time, after you’ve made good decisions and made good effort to resolve the moment wisely. Your emotions will only derail you and cause you to not think as clearly as possible. So set them aside before doing anything else.
Fourth, put yourself in the Master’s shoes. That is, if you saw this situation in someone else’s life, what advice, wisdom, experience, encouragement would you give them? If this were your best friend, your child/parent, someone you know who normally handles things well, how would you show them a good way to deal with the issues at hand? If you could dial a 1-800 Master Guru with a magic wand, what would the person on the other end tell you is the best way to handle this?
Fifth, Act. Make a decision to the best of your ability right here and now. Action will do one of two things. First, taking action prevents doubt, fear and worry from creeping in. Second, it will either not fix the situation, which gives you knowledge and experience to go about making a different decision/action and bring you closer to fixing it, or it will fix things and the problem will be resolved.
So to quickly summarize your “How to Deal With Life” fall back plan,
- Take a big breath, try to relax so you can think as clearly as possible.
- Remove yourself from the moment, this issue is a tiny blip in your lifeline.
- Put your emotions about it and those involved in a box and open on a different day. Decision Making + Emotions = Bad Decisions
- Gather your intellect and wisdom. You’ve got this, the issue can only be as big as you allow it to be.
- Make a decision and take action.
Some other things to consider when life flings stink at you:
- Your attitude. Your thoughts will determine the results. Think clearly, think positively and be about solutions.
- Forget about others. When you are in crisis mode, you (and immediate family) ARE your #1 priority, and you need to decide and act in your best interest.
- Remember, you are responsible for you. Not for other’s decisions, actions, and results – or the lack there of.
- Time is always moving forward, life is always about change. Keep going forward and go with the flow. Stay focused on the solution and being flexible.
We always have a choice. We are always in control of our thoughts, decisions and actions. We determine our own outcome.With that being said, if it’s a rough day have an extra coffee with a big handful of M & Ms and give yourself a break.
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